Mermaid is an excellent exercise to add to your Pilates practice. Many times in the beginning phases of Pilates we miss out on side bending. Mermaid is the perfect exercise to start preparing yourself for more advance side bending exercises as well as create flexibility in the spine. You will strengthening the sides of the body while building flexibility in the spine laterally. It is definitely Mermaid time! Check out this video illustrating how to perform the Pilates Mermaid.
Archive for the ‘My Inner Rockstar’ Category
It’s Mermaid Time
Sunday, June 27th, 2010Totally Yummy Pilates Shoulder Bridge
Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010You gotta rock the Pilates Shoulder Bridge. It is awesome for stretching the front side of the body while strengthening the backside. As well, decompress the spine with flexibility. This is a totally yummy exercise! Check out this video to learn how to become a Pilates Rockstar!
Why Do Pilates?
Friday, May 21st, 2010In my quest to empower the body, mind & spirit, I have taught Pilates to some totally awesome individuals. I love to see how the body, mind & spirit is returned to life through the student’s journey. The transformation is truly amazing for them as well as me. Pilates is more than a core workout…it is living life. Check out this video to see the transformation of some pretty kick ass rockstars!
Pilates Single Leg Kick
Thursday, April 29th, 2010Pilates Single Leg Kick is one of the most underutilized and misunderstood exercises. Yet, it is so GOOD for balancing the body. Learn how to rock out your Pilates Single Leg Kick. Awesome for strengthening the back of the leg, back and shoulders while stretching the knee, front of the leg and chest. Check out the video!
Bringing Sexy Back
Tuesday, April 6th, 2010Pilates Swan is a totally awesome exercise for opening the chest, stretching the front of the shoulders, neck, belly and hips, releasing the upper back and strengthening all of the back side. Check out this video to bring sexy back!
Ooey Gooey Totally Delicious Saw
Thursday, March 4th, 2010
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The Pilates Saw is one of my favorite mat exercises. Not only was it extremely helpful in relieving my back pain years ago,it provides a stretch my body craves. Pilates twisting exercises are awesome for strengthening and stretching the body; however, too many times students attempt to move beyond where his or her body is. Unfortunately, students end up missing out on the ooey gooey goodness Saw provides. Saw is totally delicious for strengthening the arms, shoulders, spine, and sides of the body while stretching the shoulders, chest, spine, back of the legs, and front of the hips.
It is not uncommon to see students struggle with Saw if they have tightness in the low back, back of the legs, and/or hips. However, many times that is caused by the student progressing further than the body is ready. It is more important to tune into your body’s abilities and shed your notion of how you envision the exercise. Rather you need to understand the exercise, and use it as a tool to unlock your true movement abilities. When you push to keep up with the crowd, you miss out on the ooey gooey deliciousness your body needs.
The first common mistake students make is to force into a position that is stressful to the body. For those who have tight back of the legs and hips, sitting up straight can be difficult as well as strain the body. It is better to prop yourself up to ease the strain to get more out of the exercise. Yet, many will still try to perform the exercise without assistance to keep up with those who can sit up straight easily. If your body is in constant freak out mode, “Get me out of this freakin’ position,” it will put excess strain on the body including the nervous system. At that point, you have lost all control of the movement. Your body controls you instead of you controlling your body. When your body stays in a constant freak out mode, you are unable to release to find the truth of the exercise for YOUR body. Work the exercise with less stress and the body can respond in a calm way to find the ooey gooey.
The second common mistake is to twist further than his or her body can twist to reach farther. In Saw, you are twisting the entire spine, and students have various levels of flexibility in twisting. Some students have more mobility to twist in the upper spine with little twist in the low spine, vice versa, or some other various combinations of flexibility and inflexibility. Many students will lift up his or her opposite hip to twist farther, which will limit the benefits of stretching the low back and front of the hips specifically. It is perfectly fine if you can not reach your baby toe. When you attempt to twist farther rather than twist smarter, you end up forcing one spot creating hypermobility in one area and continuous tightness in the other areas. Try twisting smarter rather than farther to twist the entire spine to get the most out of the exercise. Twist as far as your spine allows with your hips grounded. Work the exercise smarter and the body can open up faster to find the ooey gooey to twist farther.
The last common problem is to let the arms and legs get lazy. As I have stated many times, all Pilates exercises are full body exercises. Although the focus is on twisting the spine, the arm and leg engagement are equally as important. If your arms are lazy in the motion, they will hang and pull on the spine affecting how the spine and neck twists. Many times it will cause excess strain on the shoulders and neck. An energized arm will help the spine twist with more freedom and ease. If your legs are not active, the hips will be lazy and make it difficult to ground. Active legs allow the spine to lift away from the grounded hips to find a more energetic deeper twist. When the arms and legs stay active in the exercise, the spine can find more ooey gooey deliciousness in the twist.
Master the Pilates Saw to strengthen the arms, shoulders, spine, and sides of the body while stretching the shoulders, chest, spine, back of the legs, and front of the hips. But more importantly, master Saw for the ooey gooey deliciousness your body craves.
Pilates Rolling Like a Ball: How to Avoid Bruising
Tuesday, February 16th, 2010I love to receive questions from you. It truly inspires me to share more of my Pilates knowledge. Recently, I received a question regarding Rolling Like a Ball. The question was regarding bruising along the spine while performing Rolling Like a Ball. Check this video out to see how you can avoid bruising and rock ‘n’ roll in style.
Who’s Afraid of the Big Bad Wolf
Monday, February 15th, 2010Through all my journeys in life, I am still shackled to my fear. Yes, my dear friends, I have fear, and my fear is just as debilitating. We all have different paths, which mean we all have different levels of fear. Not one is any less important than another. Each of us deals with our fear in different ways. Regardless of how we deal with them, we can not become a victim to them. Avoidance does not make the big bad wolf go away…the big bad wolf gets angrier. The big bad wolf only leaves when we slay him. I have slain many over the years; however, right now, in this moment, I’m not sure if I know how to slay this one.
My avoidance, my fear, is living my life without my office job. The security of that stable income is what many might think and that may be a part of it. The other part is the ball and chain that has been created at this job. A dependency on me to resolve all the issues of the business, the employees, my boss’ life, the clients, cleaning up all the messes, and a million other burdens that I created. Yes, I take full responsibility for the creation of this wolf. I enjoy taking care of people. It is what I do best, but it doesn’t work when you are drowning with a 50lb weight attached to your ankle. That has been my life for the past 8 years.
I’m sure I created that dependency because I needed to feel better about myself. If I was needed, then I was loved, I was somebody special, I was frickin’ important. But, I didn’t need all that to be loved or special or important. I already was and couldn’t see through the smoke filled room to see the wolf hiding in the corner waiting for its time to strike. Maybe at that time I didn’t want to see through the smoke. I just covered it up with a pack of Marlboro Lights and Jack Daniels.
Now the smoke has cleared and I have changed my approach to life and myself. I strive to empower people on their journey. I accept whatever their journey may be. I understand my boundaries and love who I have become. I stay in the moment with an excitement for the future. Unfortunately, I find this a struggle with my office job and here I am face to face with my wolf. He is a damn angry wolf. He really didn’t like to be avoided.
I want to fight the battle to slay my wolf, and yet I don’t know where to start. I’m so confused and lost on what I am suppose to do. I created this wolf and have no idea on how to slay him. I made a decision that felt was the right one a few weeks ago. It felt like I was taking a step at slaying my wolf when in reality it was another way to avoid. He stepped right and I ran for the door into the comfort of my fantasy land.
I’m not sure where to go from here. Although, I don’t think you ever know how to start. At least I am now aware. I always say awareness is half the battle. Once you are aware you can make changes. It’s like the Matrix…you can stay a drone, but once you choose to wake up there is no turning back. I can slay my wolf as I have many before him. I’m just not sure how many war wounds I will leave with. Blood has already been lost in the battle and more will be spilled. However, death of the life I desire is the alternative if I choose not to fight. The hope of healing into the life that was meant for me is my motivation.
Ask the Wrong Question and Get the Wrong Answer
Tuesday, February 9th, 2010When it comes to relationships, I don’t understand how I keep repeating the same pattern. I have made so many positive changes in my life; however, this one eludes me. It seems that every time I try to learn my lesson in this area I fall into the same destructive pattern. The second you can look at yourself in a completely honest manner is the second you can really grow as a person. I figured out the right questions for every other aspect in my life except with relationships…I kept asking the wrong questions.
Maybe my years of self analysis, my obsession with journaling, or my recent Craniosacral session has opened Pandora’s box. Or maybe it is my current frustration that I have been propositioned by 3 guys in the past few weeks for sex. No let’s do dinner, hey can we chat over drinks, no I want to get to know you. Now I understand I am open sexually. I have no problem discussing sex with men. Many times mental foreplay can be better than sex. However, that does not mean I will jump into the bed with every guy I meet.
There is something nice about getting to know someone without the pressure of the bedroom. If it is too soon, I lose all respect for the guy. However, that is exactly what I did in college. I never gave any of my college flings a choice. If they were trying to take me home on the first night, I played the game. I had some damn good skills as a player. My assumption was that they were interested in one thing, and I was going to teach them a lesson. They may have truly wanted to get to know me. That is not their fault…I kept asking the wrong question.
Then there was the relationship that I stayed too long. I told myself that I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, or I was afraid of what he might do to himself, or the fact that he made me feel guilty. When I did finally end it, I didn’t make a clean break. I kept holding on to him, which only hurt him more. If I would have been completely honest with him, I would have saved him pain and would have freed me. I knew deep down that this was not the relationship for me. I don’t blame him…I kept asking the wrong question.
Then there is my 4 1/2 on and off relationship. I always knew the relationship was not working. I was always prepared for the end, which there needed to be. However, I was never the one to pull the trigger. Thank god he did pull the trigger over and over and over! The relationship was never going to work for multiple reasons especially since he was gay. This didn’t come out until a couple years later, but I continually put myself back in a relationship I knew wasn’t working. I don’t blame him…I kept asking the wrong question.
Why did I act the player? Why did I stay so long? Why did I continue to put myself through an on and off relationship that would never work? I didn’t trust these guys. I didn’t trust these guys because I didn’t trust me. I didn’t trust me because I didn’t love me. None of these guys have ever given me a reason to not trust them. When it came to a guy liking me, I didn’t trust what he said. I thought how could he like me? I would find every reason to screw it up while self destructing. Guy is interested in me, I play game and push them away, he starts to get disinterested (or what I assume is he is not into me), I try to fit into what he wants by playing the game again. Thus, losing self respect for myself and truly driving myself insane.
I always thought it was the guys I picked, or I needed to create more boundaries, or it was some other extenuating circumstance. I was just fooling myself. I would say it is because I’m noncommittal, or I spend too much time working. Just more freakin’ excuses! But really, I didn’t think I was good enough. That is BS! Don’t get me wrong these guys had there own issues to deal with, and I will not take responsibility for that. I take responsibility for the part I played in these relationships!
Here I am still trying to figure out my insanity in relationships. I need to forgive all those past relationships because I learned from them. Those individuals all help me become who I am today. I hope they can forgive me for the pain or confusion I may have caused. I don’t need their forgiveness…I hope they get the answers they need. Some may have already received the answers. They are probably faster learners than I am in this area. Most of all I forgive myself for not trusting or believing in me. I forgive me, I forgive me, I forgive me. I didn’t need to understand the answer…I needed to ask a different question.
Spine Stretch Your Way to Freedom
Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010A flexible spine is one of the main goals in Pilates. Joseph Pilates in Return to Life says, “…the only real guide to your true age lies not in years or how you think you feel but as you actually are as infallibly indicated by the degree of natural and normal flexibility enjoyed by your spine throughout life.” Yet, many have flexibility imbalances in their spine, which can lead to compression in areas or even pain. Some areas may be tight while other areas may be hypermobile. Spine Stretch is the perfect exercise to balancing the spine. If done properly, Spine Stretch will stretch the shoulders, back of the legs, and hips while building strength in the abs, shoulders, arms, and spine. Ultimately, this exercise will help decompress and find spinal freedom.
There are many cues utilized by teachers to describe spinal movement in flexion exercises. The most common ones are “one vertebra at a time,” “articulate the spine,” “imprint the spine,” and/or “make a C-curve.” There is nothing wrong with these cues, but what do they mean? Even if you understand the concept, do you know how to make your body move that way? Most of us tend to skip spots in our spine because of the current muscle patterns and structure. We continue to perform these exercises leveraging off of our hypermobile spots and avoiding our tightness. Although we may get some benefits, we are recreating the same muscle pattern. The goal is to change the muscle pattern and structure to be more effective and efficient for the body.
It is important to first figure out your current patterns. Some areas may be easier than others. For instance, tight low backs are usually a problem we notice while hypermobility may not be as obvious. The best way to analyze your current pattern is to practice Spine Stretch up against a wall. Sit up straight with your spine placed on the wall and tune into how your spine is moving. If your spine places extra pressure into the wall as you bend forward, that may be a hypermobile area. If your spine peels off the wall skipping a section, this may be tightness. As you peel off the wall, the spine should move smoothly and evenly including your low back.
Once you tune into your current spinal movement, we need to look at possible hindrances that affect the exercise. The first problem revolves around the hip, back of the leg, and shoulder tightness. The spine may be limited in its movement when the hips, back of the legs, and shoulders are tight. The key is to modify to ease the strain on these areas to create more freedom in the spine. Many students feel defeated if they can’t do the advance version. But, this tends to cause more strain on the body. This will hinder the body’s ability to open. If you continue to strain through the position, you will continue the same muscle patterns. You may get some benefits, which will be slow and more frustrating. Remember the goal is not to perform the advance version but rather to decompress and build even flexibility in the spine. Use modifications to reach your ultimate goal of spinal freedom faster.
The next problem prevalent in this exercise is the main principle of this exercise. This is not a flat back exercise or a hinge at the hips. There are very few straight spine exercises in Pilates. Straight spine work is important because the body should be able to be manipulated in as many ways as possible. Pilates focus is on manipulation of the spine. Every Pilates session should take you through spinal flexion, extension, rotation, and side bending. This is the key to reaching the goal of spinal flexibility. The Pilates Spine Stretch is a flexion exercise, which will attack the low back, back of the legs, and hips differently than a flat back. Make sure that you are bending the spine as you pull forward to create a bow shape.
The last common problem is pushing the body beyond its limits to reach further. In Pilates, there is no one shape. There is only the shape that is the most productive for your body. Each person will look different based on what he/she needs out of the exercise. However, many students will push their body trying to get further. Students will reach their arms or strain the back of the legs to get further, which will avoid the spine stretching to the best of its ability. It is ok if your body does not reach as far forward as the person next to you. The exercise is to work the areas your body needs to create balance. More spinal balance and leg flexibility is what will get the body to reach further.
Master Spine Stretch to decompress the spine, build flexibility in the spine, shoulders, back of the legs, and hips, and improve strength in the abs, shoulders, arms, and spine. But more importantly, master the Spine Stretch to find spinal freedom.
